FRIYAY! It’s a very exciting day for us over here, Oh Darling Blog is officially one year old! It’s kind of insane to think we started this crazy journey of ours a year ago!!
If we were to look back a year ago, we would have never thought we would be where we are today. To be completely honest with you, we might have thought we would be way further along than we are! This whole post is going to be honest & raw. The ups and downs blogging brings, the lessons it’s taught us, and the amazing people it’s brought into our lives. This journey of ours has been insanely crazy & we’re here to share just that with ya today. FYI, this post is extremely long with a lot of words, but we promise it’s a lot of good words!
Blogging has allowed me to learn / teach myself so much. It has only been a year and I’ve grown so much as a person! I’ve been able to step out of my comfort zone and do something I love. Something I never thought I would be doing, but that I truly love doing!! We’ve made some of the greatest friends & that’s one of the many reasons I truly believe this is where I am meant to be in my life right now. The people who only raise you up and cheer you on. Who love you for who you are, no matter your flaws and mistakes.
But oh man, along with joy it’s brought a lot of days of wanting to quit, days of feeling so stressed out, days of crying and thinking why am I doing this, and days of just comparing yourself to everyone else and not seeing the good in anything. It’s freaking hard!! Walking into this journey, we didn’t think it would be easy, but we didn’t think this much work went into it. TRUTH, no one tells you just how much work goes into this!
Okay, I’m going to wrap up my thoughts by ending with this! I want every single one of you to hear and know that even though it can be very difficult, that should NEVER stop you from following your dreams! Who even knows if this is truly my dream because I have millions, but at this point in my life I couldn’t see it any other way. To most people my age, I’m probably crazy! I didn’t go to college right out of high school, I’m not going to college right now, and who knows if I’ll ever go. But I don’t regret that and I don’t regret anything I am doing right now. I may not be making any money and I don’t have any plans for my future, but that doesn’t worry me because I know I’ll figure it out. I’m not concerned and have never been! I’m okay with doing things differently than what society has been drilling into our heads.. especially where I grew up! I believe that my path I’m going down is meant to be and what I am doing is what I should be doing right now. The tools I’m learning and the friendships I have made, I KNOW are slowly but surely leading me down the path to my next journey and to my end goal of true happiness.
Let me second Lydia by stating again that blogging is hard, especially for me. If it wasn’t for Lydia I would have given up on this dream. Regrettably so, but none the less I would have! I grew up without computers, and yes even the internet! Yep, I’m old. Blogging is technical; you have to know what SEO is, how to edit photos, how to create a website, so on and so forth. Thanks to Lydia she is good at all of this and if she doesn’t know how to do it, she figures it out. I am so grateful for her determination, her drive to always improve our pictures, our site. She truly has made Oh Darling Blog what it is today.
We created Oh Darling Blog because we love blogs, fashion, and we wanted to share our love with the world. We want to inspire others and lift them up. Not only do we want to connect with others but our dream is to make this our livelihood. So we continue pushing forward through a lot of ups and downs. This is a tough business to be in and no matter how hard you try, you do compare yourself to others. You compare their numbers, their picture quality, their engagement, and it can suck you in to feeling like something is wrong with you. We have to continually remind ourselves that “perfection” is just a false ideal. Nobody is perfect, NOBODY! One of my favorite things about this amazing, but crazy path that we are on, is that it has taught us to just enjoy each day and each lesson learned. It is a fantastic journey and we are so grateful!!!
One thing that really encourages us to keep doing what we are doing is receiving those sweet messages saying how we are inspiring them, how they love our concept, or to just keep up our hard work! They truly make our day & make us keep going even when feeling down. It’s amazing how they can come at the perfect time to just raise ya up a little.
One of those messages lead us to reading something that couldn’t be more TRUE and more REAL. If you are to take anything away from this post and know how it truly feels to be doing what we’re doing just read this:
“Sometimes I just have to laugh at the complete roller coaster of emotions that come with being self employed. One day I’m all “Man, I GOT this. I seriously know what I am doing & I am killing it!!” Fast forward about twelve hours later and I’m all “Holy cow, what on earth am I doing?! I am going to go bankrupt, lose everything & be the biggest failure in the history of being self employed!!” I really truly believe it never will matter how successful you are, you will always have the highs & lows when you’re your own boss.
The challenge isn’t necessarily in finding a way to only have highs (pretty darn sure that’s impossible), it’s finding a way to truly celebrate both. To understand and be grateful for how BOTH can shape & mold us.” – Melissa Smith
& seriously go do yourself a favor and follow Melissa because her words & truth are so encouraging and so so real!
Tips, Tips, and More Tips
Growth is slow
We didn’t walk into this thinking it would be easy to grow, but once again didn’t think it would be this HARD to grow! It takes time and we’ve really had to work hard on being okay with that.
Just Remember: everyone has their own journey, has their own group of followers, and has their own way of doing things!
It’s not easy
It’s not easy at all.. like at all! That should never stop you from quitting, though!
Just Know: as time goes on, you’ll get more into the swing of things and figure out what works best for you.
Everyone’s always told us to network and we didn’t really understand why that was so important. Networking just seems like a really professional word that’s difficult!
Just Know: it’s not a scary word and it’s as easy as messaging others, supporting others, joining groups, and just reaching out.
Believe you can
Even through those tough days, those days of you just not feeling good enough.. always believe in yourself and believe you can!
Just Remember: we are all stronger than we truly know.
Don’t let the numbers stop you
We’re really guilty of comparing others numbers to our own. We don’t have a big following AT ALL, but once again it takes time and everyone grows at their own pace.
Just Know: numbers should NEVER stop you, they’re literally just numbers at the end of the day. We know it’s easier said than done, but numbers should never knock your self worth and never define you!
we’ve slowly started joining groups on facebook & it’s been really helpful. Everyone is there to support others and to help each other out. Which is KEY!
Just Remember: this is a business and there are a lot of people who aren’t going to be the nicest, so finding people who love and support you for who you are is beneficial and good for the soul.
we love supporting others! We comment back to each person who comments on our photos and we make sure to interact with them on their personal account.
Just Remember: it’s important to let others now that you care and you’re here for more than just the likes & comments. Supporting others has lead us to make such great friends + it just makes you feel good!
Try NOT to compare
another thing that is easier said than done. This has been brought up a lot and can be very annoying. But it truly is something that most people do!
Just Know: know your self worth and know you’re worthy of love. We all have flaws and not one person’s life is perfect! If you’re getting sucked into feeling this way, just take a break and focus on all the good in your life.
Don’t expect things in return
being nice doesn’t mean you’ll get things in return. When supporting, commenting, and raising others up.. that doesn’t mean you’ll get the response you want!
Just Know: what you’re doing to support others is amazing
Don’t be afraid of someone telling you no
people are scared of the word no, but that should never stop you.
Just Know: don’t be afraid to reach out to others or even companies! It’s okay if they say no because for those 10 no’s you’ll get that one yes that could change your life.
It’s going to cost a lot to get where you may want to be
we’ve spent more money than we probably want to know we’ve spent, but a lot of times following your dreams can do that. We’re very fortunate & grateful that we are able to provide for a passion of ours
Just Remember: it may not be cheap or free to follow your dreams, but it doesn’t have to be crazy expensive. Budget, figure out how much you’re able to spend, and become creative!
Figure out what’s really stressing you out and find a solution
There’s been a few things we decided to get help on that’s really helped us with not feeling so stressed out and overwhelmed.
Just Remember: you can’t do everything! It’s okay to ask for help and to take breaks when needed.
comment, comment, comment.. words mean so much!
Just Remember: let people know how you love their posts, how amazing they are doing, or just some words of encouragement. Most people want feedback and to know others are reading!
Raise each other up
most importantly, raise others up! Show your love and send some love!
Just Remember: reach out to others besides just your friends. Let the people who are supporting you know how much you appreciate it. Give advice, just let others know you are there for them.. engage!
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